Everything happens for a reason, whether you figure it out or not. There are no accidents. James Redfield, author of ‘The Celestine Prophecy’, helped many connect to their deeper, more sacred spiritual selves. Life takes a new meaning when you seriously consider that people who cross your path have a message for you. When you seek meaning and purpose, it comes to you like most good things in life. I narrated my entrepreneurial story recently when Dr Shane Pegg, during a lecture at the University of Queensland, asked me to share my experience with the class. When I mentioned that I believe there are no coincidences in life, and told the story of meeting my life and business partner at Heathrow airport, I felt a ‘wow’ moment in a class of about 200 students. Some gasped, some stopped breathing for a moment, others said something like ‘woah!’ Or at least that is what it sounded like to me.
I am not a superwoman, nor a tremendously gifted individual. Some of the most important decisions in life have to come from your gut, that deep instinct sitting calmly inside you informing you about things when you choose to listen.
My instinct came in handy at Heathrow and many other times when life reached a crescendo forcing choices about jobs, clients and partners to work/ collaborate with, and cities to dwell in. Recently I was in the process of hiring an individual for an extremely important role, which was that of babysitting my children, in a city which was still new to me. I interviewed a few competent candidates and asked friends for general advice. A teacher at my son’s kindergarten said “just trust your instinct. Any documentation is just a piece of paper but see your comfort level yourself and let the kids decide. See who they like.” A friend advised “go by your instinct”. A friendly neighbor whose mum has experience with educating little children said “my mum always said that the mother knows. So you know!” But I didn’t know! I opened up my Excel sheet to weigh out pros and cons of the shortlisted candidates, asked my partner and kids about who they liked, and asked myself repeatedly as I was the one who was supposed to know. So I sat down, just my thoughts and me, and imagined all sorts of possible scenarios of events unfolding in some myriad different ways. My partner helped me weigh my options but wanted me to make the final call. Once the decision was made about the babysitter, we never regretted it.
There is so much hoopla about hiding things, making matters unnecessarily complex, and masquerading in personal and business relationships. I am not suggesting that everyone is going to like you if you choose to be simply you but that is really your best and only chance. Somewhere between mass advertising and business education, people just forgot that they can be their real selves and win a crowd, and that decisions can be made by using an optimal mix of strategy, analysis, and good old intuition.